Episode 30

How To Be A Good LGBTQ Ally

In this episode, Heather shares seven tips for being a good ally and why being a good ally to your Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, Transgender, or Queer loved one is so important.

1. Be a good listener

2. Don't be afraid to ask questions, but do your own research

3. Get comfortable with being uncomfortable

4. Speak up

5. Support equality

6. Learn the language

7. Offer financial support if you are able

Resources mentioned in the episode:

GLSEN - www.glsen.org

The Trevor Project - www.thetrevorproject.org

SAGE - www.sage.org

How to be an LGBTQ Ally - Next Avenue

LGBTQ Ally Tips - UCDavis LGBTQIA Resource Center

Ways to be an LGBTQ Ally and Supporter - Oprah Magazine

Being an Ally - Youth for Change

What a Good LGBTQ Ally Looks Like - Vox

Terminology glossaries - Human Rights Campaign, Lambda Legal, The Trevor Project, PLFAG

The Genderbread Person

Connect with Heather:

Solutions listed on her website: https://chrysalismama.com

For the Language of LGBTQIA+ E-book, visit: https://learnwith.chrysalismama.com/book  

Digital Coming Out Course for Parents - Text Ally to 55444 to get Heather's "My kid just came out and I'm freaking out!" Toolkit!




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Heather Hester

She’s a butterfly in motion—transforming spaces, stories, and hearts. Heather Hester is a rare blend of fierce advocate and gentle guide, using her voice to build bridges across divides. As the host of *More Human. More Kind.*, author of *Parenting with Pride*, and founder of Chrysalis Mama, Heather doesn’t just speak about love, allyship, and authenticity—she *embodies* them.

Her superpower? Turning complex, messy truths into clear, compassionate conversations that leave you feeling empowered, curious, and just a little more human. From Substack to podcast, workshop to stage, she creates spaces where healing is possible, voices are heard, and no one stands alone.

Whether she’s amplifying marginalized stories, coaching parents through life’s pivots, or unpacking the First Amendment with a side of soul, Heather leads with purpose and heart. She’s not here for surface-level support—she’s here to change how we show up for each other.

Married to the funniest guy she’s ever known and mom to four extraordinary kids (two of whom are LGBTQ) and one sassy mini Bernedoodle, Heather is all about showing up with humor, humility, and heart. You can almost always find her with a cup of coffee in hand—at her computer, on her yoga mat, or dancing in the kitchen to her favorite playlist. She believes in being fully human, embracing the messiness, and helping others do the same.

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