Episode 192

Support Your Queer Child Without Family Drama

Are you heading to a holiday weekend gathering with your LGBTQ child where not everyone is affirming and you're wondering how to protect their well-being without creating more tension?

For many families, gatherings (family or otherwise) bring complicated emotions. When your child is LGBTQ+ and not everyone in the room is supportive, the stakes get higher. In this episode, Heather offers heartfelt, practical guidance to help you lead with courage, protect your peace, and prioritize what matters most: your child’s well-being and your own.

  • Learn how to set compassionate, non-negotiable boundaries with extended family and friends
  • Use simple scripts to respond to misgendering, microaggressions, or toxic conversations
  • Explore ways to re-center your child and yourself before, during, and after family gatherings

Press play to feel more grounded, prepared, and empowered to lead with kindness and courage this holiday season, for your LGBTQ child and your whole family.

RESOURCE SPOTLIGHT

Resource: PFLAG’s “When Someone You Love Is LGBTQ+” Guide

Why it matters: This is a gentle, practical guide you can even share with family members who are trying, but struggling, to understand. It’s clear, respectful, and designed to build bridges.

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Heather Hester

She’s a butterfly in motion—transforming spaces, stories, and hearts. Heather Hester is a rare blend of fierce advocate and gentle guide, using her voice to build bridges across divides. As the host of *More Human. More Kind.*, author of *Parenting with Pride*, and founder of Chrysalis Mama, Heather doesn’t just speak about love, allyship, and authenticity—she *embodies* them.

Her superpower? Turning complex, messy truths into clear, compassionate conversations that leave you feeling empowered, curious, and just a little more human. From Substack to podcast, workshop to stage, she creates spaces where healing is possible, voices are heard, and no one stands alone.

Whether she’s amplifying marginalized stories, coaching parents through life’s pivots, or unpacking the First Amendment with a side of soul, Heather leads with purpose and heart. She’s not here for surface-level support—she’s here to change how we show up for each other.

Married to the funniest guy she’s ever known and mom to four extraordinary kids (two of whom are LGBTQ) and one sassy mini Bernedoodle, Heather is all about showing up with humor, humility, and heart. You can almost always find her with a cup of coffee in hand—at her computer, on her yoga mat, or dancing in the kitchen to her favorite playlist. She believes in being fully human, embracing the messiness, and helping others do the same.